Getting sexy in your sleep is pretty much every sexy girl’s dream, but it’s not necessarily easy. You’ll have to do a little work, both during the day and at night, to achieve that dreamy state.
Remember, sex dreams usually reflect something that is going on in your waking life. And if you’re dreaming about a past or current partner, it likely has a deeper meaning.
1. Practice lucid dreaming
If you want to have a sex dream, start by practicing lucid dreaming. The more you practice, the easier it will be to have lucid dreams that feel realistic and arousing. Try listening to sexy music or watching a sexy movie before you sleep.
Once you get comfortable having lucid dreams that last more than a few minutes, you can begin to experiment with sexy content. However, it is important to note that sexual dreams can reveal things about ourselves that we don’t always recognize. For example, a dream about a lover being unfaithful could indicate that you are feeling unloved or betrayed in your real life.
There are pros and cons to lucid dream sex, but it is a safe way to explore your fantasies without the risk of STDs or hurting your real-life partner’s feelings. Plus, there is research that shows that lucid dreaming can lead to actual physical orgasms, as documented by LaBerge et al.
2. Practice orgasmic meditation
Unlike more traditional forms of meditation, orgasmic meditation (or OM) involves a partnered practice of gently stroking the clitoris. While it can lead to orgasm, its primary goal is to cultivate presence and emotional connection between partners.
The stroking is very gentle, using no more pressure than you would use to brush your eyelid. Typically, one partner (the “mediator”) sits still with their eyes closed, while the other (the stimulator) strokes her clitoris in an up-and-down motion for 15 minutes.
Despite controversy surrounding the practice, a number of experts believe orgasmic meditation can be a powerful tool for mindfulness and self-love. It’s also said to improve sexual responsivity and pleasure for those with pelvic pain, sexual trauma, or low arousal. Moreover, incorporating sexual arousal into meditation can flood the brain with feel-good neurotransmitters that help us bond and alleviate stress.
3. Eat a sexy meal
There is no scientific evidence that certain foods can promote sex dreams. However, eating a rich and satisfying meal can help you fall asleep with a full stomach. This can trigger sexy dreams because it may affect your brain’s reward centers.
Similarly, masturbating before bed can also stimulate your senses and encourage you to dream about sex. But be careful not to do it too much, as over-doing it can cause you to wake up groggy and disoriented.
Dreaming about sex is normal, and it can be a healthy way to express your sexual desires. It can also help you relax and lower your stress levels. But if your dreams are disturbing, talk to a mental health professional for more support.
If you’re dreaming about oral sex, this could mean that you are feeling sexually frustrated and wanting more than your current partner can provide. Alternatively, the dream may be a sign that you have an aversion to giving oral sex (although some people love receiving it).
In Christianity, wet dreams are considered a spiritual attack by sex demons called incubus and succubus. These demons are said to seduce you in your sleep and lead to nocturnal orgasms.
To avoid wet dreams, you can try sleeping in a different position. It’s also a good idea to get into a sensual mindset during the day by playing with yourself or your partner, watching porn, or masturbating. This will help you achieve the right arousal level in your sleep and make it more likely that you’ll have a sexy dream at night.
5. Drink a cup of chamomile tea
The goal of this technique is to encourage your dream brain to focus on sexual arousal. Drinking a cup of chamomile tea can help stimulate the nervous system and trigger sexy dreams.
If you’re dreaming about a coworker who you don’t find physically attractive, it may not be a sign that your subconscious is yearning for multiple-participant sex. Instead, your dream might be a way of expressing that you admire the person’s work ethic or other qualities.
Try keeping a dream journal to record your dreams each night. Even those who claim they don’t dream will usually write something down when they wake up—your brain dumps memories within minutes of waking to make room for new ones. Writing down your dreams can also help you remember them more clearly.
6. Take a warm bath
Taking a warm bath before bed can help you relax and prime your mind for a sexy dream. You can even try adding some lubrication to make the experience more sensual.
Massaging your nipples and clitoris can also be a good way to prepare yourself for a sexy dream. This can help you achieve orgasm while you sleep, and it can help you get closer to the person you’re dreaming about in your dreams.
Another thing that can help you have a sexy dream is to dress yourself in something sexy. It’s also a good idea to change your sheets and put on some romantic music before you go to sleep. This can help to set the mood and encourage your subconscious erotic imagination.
7. Get in the right mood
There are many benefits to having sexy dreams, including lowered stress levels and an increased sense of sexual satisfaction when you wake up. Plus, dreaming about sex can inspire fantasies to act on in real life, says Jess O’Reilly, PhD, a sexologist and author of The New Sex Bible.
Dreaming is a natural part of our sleep cycle, and there are certain things you can do to set yourself up for sexy dreams, like listening to sensual music and reading erotic novels or short stories. You can also try masturbating before bed to encourage orgasmic dreams.
But remember, your dreams may not always reflect your sexual preferences and desires in reality, and sexual fantasies can change over time. So don’t take anything too seriously if you don’t have a sexy dream every night.