There are a few reasons you might feel like you need to pee during sex. It could be pressure on your bladder, it might be a precursor to female ejaculation, or it might just be a sign that you’re about to orgasm.
It’s actually more common than you might expect to need to pee during sex. Let’s look at why that happens and what to do about it.
1. Your bladder is full
The feeling of a full bladder can definitely turn you on, especially if it’s combined with an orgasm. And it’s not necessarily an indicator that you’re squirting or leaking — that pee-feeling could just be your bladder being pressed on during sex, explains Good Vibrations staff sexologist Carol Queen. “During sexual activity, the organs (the uterus, bladder, penis and clitoris) get bumped around a bit and can put pressure on the bladder,” she says. If you’re trying to avoid this, try going to the bathroom right before sex to make sure your bladder is empty.
But you also could be a little wet down there due to natural moisture, or you might have a weakened pelvic floor (which can happen with childbirth, surgery or long-standing medical conditions). If that’s the case, you may experience stress incontinence during sex as your pelvic muscles are getting a workout.
If you have this specific sensation regularly, you can try lubricating yourself with a sex lube before you have sex, Fosnight suggests. And you can try changing positions and minimizing friction to see if that helps. But if the constant feeling of needing to pee is distracting or annoying you, it’s probably worth talking to your doctor about possible underlying issues. They’ll be able to help you figure out what’s causing it and offer solutions to fix it.
2. You’re rubbing your clitoris
You’re not being targeted by an evil witch spell — the feeling you get during sex that makes you think you need to pee is totally normal. This could be from a few different things, including your bladder not being fully empty and pressure on the front of the vagina from sex positions (rear entry penetration, for instance, can be particularly pee-inducing), or it may also be your G spot, which is located in the front of the vagina, and when it’s stimulated, fluid pools around it, making you feel like you need to go.
It can also be a sign that you’re on the verge of ejaculation, or female squirting (which feels very similar to needing to pee). If this happens frequently, Fosnight suggests trying lubrication or changing sex positions to see what helps.
The other possibility is that you have weak pelvic floor muscles, which can make it hard to control your bladder. This can be caused by things like having a baby, chronic coughing or sneezing, constipation, or even just doing regular high-impact exercise. The good news is that you can fix it by doing Kegel exercises. If you’ve tried all of these things and still feel the need to pee during sex, however, it’s definitely worth checking in with your doctor, especially if there’s pain or burning when you pee or you notice any other worrying signs, such as blood in your urine.
3. You’re rubbing your urethra
If you feel like peeing during sex, it’s likely because your clitoris is rubbing against the urethra. The urethra is right next to the bladder, so when your penis or sex toy gets close, it’s easy for the two to rub against each other and stimulate them both. This can be very satisfying, and for some people can trigger an orgasm. However, if you’re feeling a need to pee regularly during sexual intercourse, it’s important to talk to your doctor or gynaecologist about it. They can check for a urinary tract infection (UTI) or other conditions that could be causing it.
It’s also possible that the sensation of needing to pee during sex isn’t actually related to your bladder, but is instead a sign that you are about to ejaculate. This is because ejaculation can happen when you’re in a certain sexual position, and many women worry that they’ll accidentally pee during orgasm. However, it’s very unlikely that you’ll actually pee.
If you’re worried about a sudden urge to pee during sex, it’s worth trying to empty your bladder before starting to see if that helps ease the feeling. It’s also a good idea to practice pelvic floor muscle exercises before engaging in sexual activity, as this can help prevent bladder leakage. And if you’re still feeling the urge to pee, then it’s probably best to visit your doctor or gynaecologist, as there could be an underlying issue that needs to be addressed.
4. You’re nervous
If you’re a woman, feeling like you have to pee during sex can sometimes be a telltale sign that you’re about to squirt. “This pee-urgency feeling is usually associated with the ejaculatory nerves that also serve the G-spot,” a licensed marriage and family therapist tells SELF. You can try backing off on the stimulation, or just going for it and seeing what happens.
It’s not uncommon to feel the need to pee during orgasm, as the bladder is positioned right behind your vaginal wall and can get jostled around a bit during sex. The sensation can also come from the pressure of a penis or sex toy entering the vagina and bumping into your bladder, says Good Vibrations sexologist Carol Queen.
The feeling of having to pee can be arousing for some, especially young people who are first exploring their bodies. “Some women report that the pee-urgency feeling during orgasm increases pleasure and intensity,” Fosnight says.
But if you’re always worried about a mid-coitus leak, it could be stressing you out and draining your libido. If that’s the case, it’s important to talk to your doctor about pelvic floor exercises and other treatment options that can help ease or even eliminate the pee-during-sex feeling. You can also try using lube and changing positions to minimise the urge to pee during sex.