As long as it’s consensual and safe, choking can be an intensely erotic kink. But be careful — unsafe choking can be dangerous and even cause life-threatening complications like asphyxiation.
Remember to always press on the sides of the neck, not the windpipe. The goal is to restrict the flow of oxygen-rich blood to the head and brain.
How to do it
It’s important to note that choking during sex is not safe. It’s capital-D dangerous – a lot of people choke too hard and end up cutting off their partner’s air supply or damaging their throat or larynx. It’s also very uncomfortable for the person being choked and can cause them to cough, which is not sexy. This is why it’s so important to be very careful and only do choking with someone you trust and who agrees to it. Always ask for consent and use a safe word or gesture to signal when it’s time to stop.
It’s also important to talk about the act of choking before you ever try it. Discuss things like timing, intensity, and the style of choking (is it playful, dominant, or maybe a little pretend scary?) so that you both know what you’re getting into.
Choking can be done in any number of ways during sex but it’s particularly sexy in rear-facing positions like missionary or spoon. To do it, simply take one hand and hold her neck in a grip that’s tight enough to choke her but not so tight that she can’t breathe. Then, with your other hand, you can pound her harder and harder until she’s on the verge of orgasm. In many cases, the physical sensation of being choked – along with the feeling of vulnerability and submission – can increase blood flow to the brain, intensifying orgasms.
The right way
The throat is a sensitive part of the body and is erogenous for many women. Choking a woman during sex can be extremely sensual, but only if it is done correctly. It is important to communicate and negotiate how and when you are going to choke your partner, so they feel safe and secure. In order to do this, you should use clear verbal consent, choose sexual positions in advance, and discuss boundaries for any dirty or degrading talk that may be involved.
There are a few different ways to choke your partner, but the most effective way is to do it while you are both facing each other and making eye contact. This will add an element of intimacy and power play that can be very hot. It is also possible to choke your partner while they are on top of you in forward-facing sex, such as the missionary position or cowgirl position.
The most important thing to remember is not to choke your partner so hard that they cannot breathe. This is not only extremely uncomfortable, but it can also be very dangerous. To prevent this, always avoid the front of the neck (around the Adam’s apple), and instead focus on squeezing the carotid artery. This will be more effective and safer, as it will not restrict their breathing.
The wrong way
Choking is a dangerous kink that can cause oxygen deprivation, irregular heart rates, or even death if done wrong. This type of kink is best reserved for experienced partners who know how to use it properly.
It is important to start out choking your partner with very light pressure and slowly increase the amount of pressure you apply to her neck. This way, you can be sure that your partner doesn’t have any underlying health problems and that they are okay with the choking sensation. It is also important to remember that choking is not about actually choke her or restricting her breathing at all. Instead, it is about creating and fulfilling the fantasy in her mind that she is being choked by a man she loves.
Choking can also feel very intimate and loving when it is paired with kissing. The neck is a very erogenous area, and choking it with kissing will make the experience feel incredibly intense. This is a great way to keep things spicy and to add sexual variety to your relationship. Many couples need quickies, new sex positions, and slower, more gentle sex to stay happy and satisfied. By adding choking to this mix, you will be able to provide the kind of sexual stimulation that most couples need. You can also try this technique in different sex positions, like the missionary position or the cowgirl position.
It’s important to communicate during choking or any other type of rough play. If she tells you she doesn’t want to be choked, you need to find out why – it may not feel good to her, or maybe a previous guy did it wrong and gave her the wrong impression. If she does want to be choked, be sure you’re not going in too hard – the throat is made of soft tissue that can easily collapse under too much pressure. Keep the pressure light, and only increase it if she asks for more or gestures for it to happen.
It’s also a good idea to talk about the timing and what each partner wants out of it beforehand. This is especially important if she wants to be choked during sex, since it’s easy to miss the right moment and choke her to death (which isn’t fun for anyone). If you both agree that this is something they want to do regularly, you should consider having a non-verbal safe word or signal to use in case it becomes too uncomfortable or unsafe to continue. This is true for any kink that involves risk, but it’s especially important when you’re dealing with an area of the body that can cause life-threatening issues like oxygen deprivation. It’s not for beginners, but it can be an intensely pleasurable kink when done correctly with communication and consent in place.