Sex is intimate and scary and should never be something you jump into. It’s important to take your time and know you should never feel pressured by anyone to do it.
Being sexually active can have some serious risks, including STDs and unintended pregnancy. Here are a few tips to help you know when you’re ready for sex: 1. You’re comfortable with your partner.
1. You’re ready to be intimate
There are a lot of factors that come into play when making the decision to have sex for the first time with a new partner. Some people are naturally eager to take the next step, and others need more time to build a connection before they feel ready for sex. Either way, it’s a big decision that shouldn’t be taken lightly.
Sometimes, you might feel pressure from your partner or your friends to have sex. This can be a difficult thing to deal with, especially if you’re a virgin and don’t have any history of sexual activity in the past. However, remember that it’s your body and your choices. If you’re not feeling confident or comfortable, don’t let anyone else pressure you into a sexual experience that might end in hurt feelings or unintended pregnancy.
Similarly, you should never have sex just to keep up with your friends or out of fear of missing out. If you’re dating someone and are considering taking your relationship to the next level, ask yourself if you truly trust them with your most personal secrets and thoughts. This is important to know, because if you don’t feel like you can trust your partner, intimacy might cause more problems than it solves. Whether it takes months, years, or hours to get there, only you can decide if you’re ready for sex.
2. You’re ready to be vulnerable
It’s completely normal to feel a certain amount of vulnerability when you’re intimate with someone. This is especially true if you’re in a romantic relationship, but even if you’re not, sex is still a very personal thing and only you can decide when it’s the right time for you to be vulnerable with your partner.
This is why it’s important to take your time before deciding when the right time is. It’s also good to talk about it with your partner, so you both are on the same page and you can discuss boundaries. This won’t guarantee that the sex will be mind-blowing, but it will minimise the chances of you feeling let down or used later on.
Think about your past relationships and sexual experiences – both good and bad – to help you assess whether you’re ready to be vulnerable with this person. Did you have a hard time trusting people? Did you make decisions that you regret later on? This is not to say that you should never have sex with anyone, but it’s helpful to consider your values and your own experiences before making such a big decision.
If you’re having a difficult time opening up to your partner, it may be beneficial to seek advice from a trusted friend or a relationship therapist. Their perspective can give you clarity and may help you to understand the root cause of your difficulties – if there is one.
3. You’re ready to have fun
Sex can be a lot of fun if you’re in the right mood and your partner is ready. If you’re feeling overly depressed, anxious or stressed out it’s not a good idea to add sex to your already busy life. Sex can also cause emotional harm if you do it before you’re emotionally ready or with someone who doesn’t care about you.
Remember that it’s okay to take your time and you should never feel pressured into having sex by friends, family, cultural or societal norms. Make sure you’re talking openly with your partners about safe sex, including what positions feel good, and what doesn’t. You should both agree that you will always use a condom to protect against STIs, like HIV, and unintended pregnancy.
You should both also agree that if you want to stop the act at any time you will. You should both understand that you can’t force each other to keep going if either of you feels uncomfortable. You should also be clear with your partners about any sexual activities that you’d prefer not to have. This will help prevent any misunderstandings down the road. Sex should be fun, playful and safe, so it’s important to choose your next adventure wisely with truth and clarity in mind.
4. You’re ready to take the next step
There’s no set timeline as to how long you need to be ‘going steady’, ‘dating’ or’seeing someone’ before you go from platonic to sexual intimacy. However, it’s important to consider the relational goals of your relationship as a whole before you move forward with sex. If you’re hoping that sex will lead to monogamy or marriage, for example, it’s a good idea to communicate this clearly with your partner to avoid any disappointment down the road.
It’s also worth asking yourself if you feel comfortable talking about sex in a mature way with your partner. If you’re nervous about discussing your desires with them or feel like they may be pushing the issue, this is a sign that it may not be ready to happen yet.
Remember, determining if you’re ready for sex is a personal decision and not something that should be rushed or judged by others. Don’t let external pressures make you feel that you’should’ be having sex at a certain age, as this will only lead to regrets in the future. The best thing to do is talk to a trusted friend or therapist for further advice and guidance. They can help you understand that there are a lot of factors at play, including emotional readiness and previous demonstrations of responsibility. Good luck!