If you’re dating a guy who seems to only want sex, it might be time to talk to a relationship expert. Consistent excuses like only wanting to sleep with you, avoiding conversation about anything other than sex, and never inviting you out are clear signs that he’s only interested in hooking up.
1. He’s not ready for a serious relationship
Despite you feeling like you’re in a couple, he might not see the relationship as such. If he were truly interested in you, he would want to introduce you to his friends and family, spend more time with you outside of the bedroom, and talk about your future plans together. A guy who only wants sex won’t do these things because he’s not interested in you past the physical aspect of your relationship.
Another sign that he’s not ready for a serious relationship is when he avoids you unless it has to do with sex. If he’s only interested in hooking up with you, he’ll be down to meet for drinks after work or catch a movie during the day but will be reluctant to hang out with you during other times of the week.
If you ask him about where he sees your relationship going, and he tells you that he only wants sex, believe him. There’s nothing worse than a man who isn’t ready for commitment and won’t admit it to you.
A man who only wants sex may also make excuses that sound valid, such as saying that he’s not sure he is ready for a serious relationship or that he needs more time to work on himself. Beware of these excuses because they’re usually just smokescreens for his true intentions.
2. He’s afraid of commitment
Some men aren’t ready for a serious relationship, and that’s okay. This can be for a number of reasons, including work commitments, family obligations, or even unresolved childhood trauma. Regardless of the reason, it’s important to recognize when someone isn’t a good fit for you and let them go.
If a man only wants to hook up with you and is annoyed if you spend time together without engaging in sexual activity, it’s a clear sign that he has commitment issues. He may also feel threatened by your desire to be intimate and may feel like he’s not worthy of you in any way other than as a sex partner.
Many men with commitment issues are afraid of being trapped and feel that commitment will limit their ability to “live life to the fullest.” In addition, they may be unable to accept that a loving relationship requires mutual respect and open communication. If you find that a man is only interested in using you, it’s important to trust your instincts and move on. Luckily, there are plenty of other men out there who are genuinely committed to a serious relationship and will treat you well. CLICK HERE to discover the one specific emotional trigger within every masculine man that inspires him to want to take care of you, worship you and deeply commit to you.
3. He’s afraid of losing you
The deeper truth is that a man’s true desire beneath his push for sex is not just about the physical act of intimacy, but it’s about owning you and your energy. It takes real courage for a man to step in and take ownership of you, especially if the relationship is just getting started.
Men feel that they need to own you in order to protect and guard your energy. They are afraid that if they let you go too soon, they will lose something valuable to them. He may say this to you in a direct way, or he might not even say anything at all and instead just show you through his actions.
For example, he may become irrationally strict when it comes to your friendship with other guys. If he gets mad at you for laughing too loud with your guy friends, or if he refuses to hang out with them without you, it’s a clear sign that he doesn’t want to lose you.
He might also make consistent excuses to leave early from hanging out with you. If he only sees you in the evenings, but only when it’s convenient for him to hook up, then that’s another clear sign that he is only interested in sleeping with you. Consistently making excuses to leave early communicates that he doesn’t view you as something more than just a sexual partner.
4. He’s afraid of failure
When it comes to pushing for sex, men can be afraid that they’ll miss the mark and end up giving you a bad impression. They’re worried that if they don’t give you what you want, you’ll leave them or tell their friends that they don’t feel the same way. This is especially true for guys who are insecure or have fear of abandonment patterns.
The deeper level of truth is that men want to “OWN” you. They want to feel your ultimate openness to them with your feminine energy. They want to know that you will never close off to them sexually or emotionally. They want to know that if they can’t offer you their body today, it is ok because you belong to them forever.
This may seem harsh, but it’s the reality that many women face. It takes a lot of strength to accept that you have to put your ego aside and share your high value vulnerability with someone who doesn’t always reciprocate. It’s also a great way to weed out the desperate guys who only want you for sex.