If we fail to share GOD’s perspective on sex, it’s going to send people looking for answers elsewhere. That’s a big mistake with serious consequences.
GOD created sex for multiple purposes, including procreation. But He also designed sex for deep intimacy and to bond two souls. The result of this union is called marriage.
The most obvious reason God created sex and marriage is for the reproduction of human life. Genesis 1:27 says, “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.”
In order for this to happen, men and women must enter into an intimate sexual relationship with one another. That is why God commanded the first commandment to be fruitful and multiply, and it specifically said that this should occur within the divine institution of marriage.
However, God’s purposes for sex and marriage go far beyond just that. He designed sex to be a sacred and deeply spiritual experience that is based on commitment and unending love. This kind of sex is the most beautiful thing in creation and is what He desires for all His people.
When we ignore God’s design for sex and marriage, it leads to many problems. This includes financial crises, health issues, broken families and a lack of sexual fulfillment and happiness.
The biblical view is that a person’s greatest value and significance in the world comes not from their sexuality, but from being God’s image bearer and ruling creature. This is a much more profound and important view of the world than most people realize. It is also the basis for God’s blessing of all marriage and sex in the Bible.
When you’re intimate with someone, you share deeply personal information. You share the cognitive, affective and behavioral dimensions of your relationship. You love, serve and care for each other, even when it’s difficult. That’s what the Bible calls intimacy.
God designed sex to be an outlet, or expression, of intimacy. It’s a way for husbands and wives to express their deep, committed love for each other. It’s not the source of intimacy, though. If you don’t have emotional, spiritual and intellectual intimacy in your marriage, it won’t be triggered by sex.
While sexuality is a great tool for fostering intimacy, it can also be used for bad purposes. Pornography, sex with strangers, adultery and more are all examples of sex being misused for evil. God created sex to be good, but it can be corrupted by sin and the devil. Sex in marriage is a fortress against the schemes of Satan and a vehicle to glorify God.
The Bible teaches that we are not only defined by the people with whom we have sex but by our relationship to God. This understanding of our true identity is what gives us maximal value and significance before Him. It’s why the Bible tells us to “love your neighbor as yourself.” When we experience godly sexual intimacy in a marriage, it helps us understand the true definition of love and stewardship.
Oneness is the deep and intimate connection between two people that occurs during sex. It is a bond that goes beyond physical intimacy to include emotional and spiritual connection as well. Studies on brain chemistry have shown that the experience of sex is so intense, it actually creates a physiological link between two bodies and souls.
This is why God created sex for the purpose of procreation, and He designed marriage to be the proper context for sexual expression. It is a beautiful and wonderful thing when a husband and wife honor God with their sexual intimacy, but it is also a powerful force for evil when couples disregard God’s design.
When a man and woman leave their parents to marry, they become glued together physically, emotionally, and spiritually. This is what the Bible means when it says that a husband and wife “leave their father and mother and be joined together in one flesh” (Mark 10:7). It’s an amazing thing that we need to cherish and celebrate, not hide from or deny.
We shouldn’t be afraid to talk about the beauty of sex, or to teach our children about its proper use. It is a blessing from GOD that we need to celebrate, and it’s an important part of what makes us human. It’s a shame that so many Christians have shied away from talking about sex in public, and I believe it’s had serious negative consequences.
When we fail to understand the purpose of sex, it’s easy for temptation to get out of hand. Parents wring their hands as they watch their kids walk into a culture pushing sex at them; husbands and wives wonder if their loved ones will stay faithful; and people all over the world sound alarms about problems like rape, sexual abuse, and sex trafficking.
One reason God created sex is that it’s a powerful bonding experience. It brings two bodies together and connects them deeply with each other physically, emotionally and spiritually. In the context of marriage, sex is meant to be an intimate experience that is safe and satisfying for both partners.
God also designed sex to be pleasurable. He wants married couples to enjoy each other’s company and celebrate their union. Done correctly and under God’s blessing, sex can be an expression of pure love that is not just physical but deep within each partner’s soul.
As Christians, we have a responsibility to educate people about God’s design for sex and marriage. We can’t sanitize these topics or else we may end up with a Christian culture that isn’t appealing to people who are interested in sex because it fails to give them what they need. Then they will look elsewhere and find answers that are far from what GOD intended.