Dirty sex is an essential component of a healthy sex life. It helps you express yourself sexually, ask for what you want, and feel comfortable with your own body.
In one study, participants reported that a clear request or desire was the biggest turn on when talking dirty. Here are some tips for enhancing your bedroom talk: 1. Start slow.
1. Listen to your partner.
Talking dirty is an important part of a healthy sex life. But it can also be intimidating if you’re new to it.
When you’re first getting into dirty talk, listening to your partner is a great place to start. Listening can help you figure out what their boundaries are and how far you can push them. It can also give you ideas of what to say next.
For example, you may find that your partner enjoys hearing a certain tone in bed. Maybe they like a sultry, serious tone or a sillier, playful one. Try out different tones in your bedroom and see what works for both of you.
Complimenting your partner can be another good way to start talking dirty. For instance, if your partner loves their body, you could compliment them on their girth or cup size. This will make them feel arousal and let them know that you’re interested in them.
2. Explore different tones.
Getting dirty can take many tones. Some partners talk fast and loud in bed, others are more intimate and loving, and still others like to role play and explore different kinky things. Talking to your partner about these things in advance can help prevent any misunderstandings and confusion when you’re finally able to turn up the heat.
It’s also a good idea to ask your partner what words and phrases turn them on or off. This can be a fun way to start a healthy discussion about consent and what is, or isn’t, appropriate in a sexual experience.
Some examples of naughty questions to ask include: what sex position makes you orgasm the most? What do you think of rough role-playing? And, are you more of a dominant or submissive person? These naughty questions can help create some great phone foreplay and are sure to arouse your man.
3. Compliment your partner.
Talking dirty gets a bad reputation, but it’s not always four letter words yelled at high pitch. It can be more subtle than that, and if done right can actually be hotter. It’s about complimenting your partner to get them aroused, not making them feel like they are a slut or a whore.
It’s not just words that make them horny either – sexy body language is also important. Breathing into their ears, moaning, and slapping them can all be more sensual than just the words you use.
Once you’ve got them in the mood, don’t be afraid to push things a little further. Just remember that this is sex play, not disrespect and don’t overdo it. Getting rough and biting can be super sexy but only if it is appropriate to the situation. If you’re not sure, ask them. You don’t want to ruin their night because you were too aggressive or too harsh.
4. Ask for feedback.
While it’s tempting to use dirty questions to turn a woman on and keep her horny, these kinds of naughty conversations are best reserved for intimate moments when both partners can be fully present. Plus, they can open up important conversations about sexual preferences, protection, and consent.
For example, asking your partner what turns them on can help you find out about their kinks and fetishes and make it easier to explore those with them. You can also ask them what their hard boundaries are, which can be a great way to open up about touch triggers and other important things they might need to know.
So, the next time you’re feeling adventurous in bed, try out some of these dirty questions to see what turns your partner on and create an experience that is uniquely theirs! Just be sure to check in with them and respect their feedback.
5. Let it flow.
Talking dirty can feel scary at first, but the key is to just let it flow. The more you practice, the better you’ll get. Remember to listen to your partner, and if something feels uncomfortable, don’t be afraid to stop.
Don’t worry about sounding cheesy—it’s all in good fun. Just let it come naturally, and you’ll find that it elevates the sexual experience.
Dirty sex means different things to different people. What may seem like a normal, everyday thing—like oral sex—may be considered dirty to someone else. Back-alley shags, tying up, role playing—all these things could be considered dirty sex to some people.
But you can’t get defensive about what others consider dirty, and you shouldn’t judge yourself either. You have to find a balance that works for you, and it takes time to find that sweet spot. Start small, and work your way up.
6. Don’t get defensive.
If something offends you, take a deep breath and remember that they’re just trying to have a fun sexual experience. Getting defensive only makes things worse.
Some people think sex is dirty because of their religious beliefs, the way they were raised, or simply because it’s messy and involves fluids. This can lead to them getting out of bed as soon as sex is over and not enjoying the intimate bonding that comes afterward.
Bedroom trash talk can be a great way to get back in the game and access your baser sexual instincts, but don’t forget about the importance of having clear and open communication in a healthy relationship. For example, if you know that you’re triggered by certain insults like “stupid b—h” or “w—e,” it’s important to communicate this so that your partner is aware and doesn’t accidentally call you that while talking dirty.